Mom really wants to stay in her home, but she needs more help than she realizes. We tried three times to get her into an assisted living place, but she just pretends and then backs out. I ask her outright if she was manipulating me. She said yes she was. I don't really care whether she goes somewhere or if someone goes in but she admitted to knowing how she was treating me. I kind of blew a gasket.
A few months ago she told me what was wrong with me for three hours. It took her that long to get to my weight. I stood up, told her it was time to go, hugged her and left. All of my stuff was gathered up so I just scooped it up on the way out the door and didn't look back. Well, I did look back as she was standing in the walkway wondering what the heck happened.
I have tried talking to her, and in the same breathe she hits me again will all of my faults. I know that we are well past making progress, so I just left. I've never done that before. Had to call a couple of my kids and tell them how tough I was. They, of course, were proud of their Mom.
I told Mom a few weeks later, that now that I know she is manipulating me that she only gets one warning, and then I leave. I also told her I would not have anything to do with getting her a place to stay if she needed one and Mady and Kelly were worn out as well.
Mady found someone to come into her home and help her and it has really helped a lot. I was watching the camera about every hour to make sure she was okay, and now I'm down to just checking on it if I haven't heard from her for a while.
I told my doctor I was in bad shape with the adrenal failure rearing its ugly head again. He told me I had to get rid of some stress. I explained the only stress I had left was my Mom and my husband. Which one do I get rid of?
